Wednesday, June 29, 2011

How to Attract a Woman

This article explains how to talk to a woman to generate tons of attraction.

In the very beginning of the first conversation you should do about 75% of the talking. Your aim here is to demonstrate your fantastic personality and high value. Avoid doing what most guys do, which is to put the conversational burden on her with redundant questions and digging for commonalities. Your aim is to keep the conversation light, fun, and playful.

Avoid mundane subjects like work, politics, or ANYTHING negative. Be in control of the initial conversation, but dont be controlling. Dont let yourself slip into interview type questions. When she brings up boring subjects dont allow the conversation to go that way. Gently push the conversation in another direction, by saying something that has something to do with the topic, but is funny, light,and might bring back some kind of memory for her. Then, she might tell you the story.
Many women will say they have a boyfriend if they dont have enough attraction for you yet, so just blow past it. Ignore it. Pretend you didnt hear it. Or, if that would be awkward, just say Cool. Anyway and continue talking. If she insists on talking about him, one thing you can say is: Wow, whats it like to be in the perfect relationship?- This will make her give reasons why her relationship is NOT perfect. Again, though, as a general rule of thumb, you should plow past the boyfriend claim as soon as possible. Dont make him into a reality.
Do not be outcome dependent. You dont care if you have her attraction or not. Youre there to entertain yourself, and whatever happens, happens.
Dont supplicate. If the woman deciphers, even for a moment, that she has more value than you do, youll be blown out instantly. There are MANY techniques you can use to demonstrate your non-neediness, but for now the best thing you can do is detach from outcome. Shell sense your non-needy attitude, and that should be enough to keep you safely beyond her threshold of value checking, and build up some mean attraction to boot. See How to Stop Being Needy.
Be laid back and nonchalant about the whole thing. Youre just messing around and your number one priority is to have fun. Flirt, tease, be slightly cocky, and use sarcasm (with a wry smile thrown in so she knows youre just messing around). Pretend youre speaking to an old friend. If she says something that you disagree with, tell her. Dont be mean, dont be offended, just rationalize your opinion and tease her about how shes not cool if she doesnt agree with you (wry smile here folks, wry smile).
Implement what we call "Reverse cold reading to bait qualification," or RCR. How it works is this: Find something about her that you're fairly certain is not true. Then, say you don't like that quality in a girl. Because it's NOT true about her, she will then explain herself to you and let you know that she is not that way. This is called qualifying, and we do it when we're trying to win the favor of someone. What you're doing here is baiting her qualification, and unconciously she will become more attracted to you when she takes that bait, jumps through your hoop, and starts qualifying herself to you.
Be composed. Yes, very, very composed. Like the captain, you know exactly where you want to go and everything you say and do has a purpose. It's important to remember that picking up girls is largely about time management. Why waste your time with conversation that isnt pushing you closer to your goal? Besides, distractions may arise that will steal her attention, so each minute counts. With a little practice it's easy to close numbers in seconds rather than minutes.
Lastly, while speaking to a woman you are constantly assessing her attraction. Look for open body language, dilated pupils, giggling, and touching. Regardless of her personality or culture, women are pretty consistent with signs of attraction. With just a little practice youll be able to pick up on these signs very quickly. Just follow youre hunch, its usually correct. Thanks for reading!

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